Can't Cuddle Enough



Lately I just can't get enough cuddling time with Wesley.  He's gotten more independent where sometimes he just wants to be put down to play rather than needing to be held all the time.  So when he is content to be held, I just can't soak up that time enough.  The best is when he's just woken up in the morning or from a nap.  He's so rested and happy but content to just be held.  My neck is sore from just looking down at him as I hold him.  I try to take pictures of him in my arms but it never captures him the way I see him.  I just can't imagine him being more perfect.  I find that a weird contradiction because I'm saddened by the fact that he won't get to be "normal" and I want nothing more than for him to be healed, but at the same time I feel he is so perfect.  I can't imagine him being any different than he is and I love him more than I know how (I know every parent says that :) ).  I keep waiting way past his bedtime to put him in his crib at night because I love holding my precious sleeping baby.  In the end, even if he ends up with bad sleeping habits, I'd rather have that wonderful bonding time than put him down on time.  His physical therapists are really trying to get him working on "tummy time" so he builds the muscles and posture he will need to crawl.  He's getting where he doesn't cry immediately when I put him on his tummy but it normally doesn't last more than 10 seconds.  Sometimes, though, I can get him to fall asleep for 20+ minutes on me on his tummy.  His physical therapists say that counts as tummy time so there's even more justification for my extended cuddling times.  I think that as he gets older and more independent, I would regret not cuddling with him more than I would regret not following the "rules" about putting him to sleep.

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  1. QuilterbunnyMay 30, 2012 at 9:03 AM

    Yes, there is nothing like cuddling your baby. Enjoy it because they seem to grow up so quickly. I can't wait to have my chance to cuddle him!
    Love You
    Grandma

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  2. KristaMay 30, 2012 at 6:23 PM

    I love it! Cuddle away! :)

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  3. HeidiMay 30, 2012 at 11:00 PM

    Your story is an inspiration and a blessing to many parents out there who have had children with health issues. Thank you for sharing. Blessings, Heidi

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